Is This Necessary?, Written by Charles T. Tatum, Jr.

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Stoicism says not to do good deeds for the recognition- "the third thing." Marcus Aurelius says "Ask yourself at every moment- is this necessary?" Not only is this a profound line to ask yourself, but you must pause to remember to ask it, instead of chalking up a decision to chance or a whim. Even asking the question over a simple choice make harder decisions easier to discern and understand. You might still make a "bad" decision, but you'll be able to justify your decision-making process to others who question or disagree. You might understand why they felt they were right, or you can explain why your unpopular decision actually worked. Or, you might keep the question to yourself since you should perform good deeds like no one is watching.

Starting when I read this statement, I decided to keep the "is this necessary?" question in my head, especially concerning making money and better self-care. Fritz Ridenour says challenges teach patience, and patience strengthens character. Combine this statement with Marcus Aurelius'- how many of our challenges are due to us not asking "is this necessary?". We could still work through our challenges with God's help, we shouldn't stop praying and handle troubles on our own, and we wouldn't need to ask "is this necessary" if the situation involves sin. We have been given a great gift that we don't deserve because of God's grace, so questioning whether we should commit a sin or not shouldn't require a second thought. Have God help you when you're undecided or troubled, "is this necessary"- let Him show you that yes or no, He loves you and wants to help.